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A Still small Voice

This is a portal page dealing with the consequences of discrimination by churches and christians (purposeful small c) and other religions.

Recently having been so exposed to the shallow end of the christian faith I have become rather depressed, and very angry and today 7-11-10 in church printed in the bulletin was St. Francis prayer (probably written by anonymous in reality) which put things in perspective and give a base line test.

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace;
where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury, pardon:
where there is doubt, faith ;
where there is despair, hope
where there is darkness, light
where there is sadness, joy
O divine Master,
grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console;
to be understood, as to understand;
to be loved, as to love;
for it is in giving that we receive,
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned,
and it is in dying that we are born to Eternal Life.

I will be touching on those areas that peripherally contribute to how and why this happens. This is a area my wife and I and those in the transgender community have discussed with regularity with particular attention to Christians, (since that is how we identify). On a personal note we left a church that became more about what it was against than what it is for, it was for all intents Baptist though independent. I am NOT saying this is the case with all conservative/Baptist church there are some that are very accepting.

What bothers me greatly is the lack of awareness or total disregard for the consequences of being judge-mental and being willing to lie by christians (purposeful small c) who seem to have an agenda that includes the most base falsehoods and for God only knows what purpose. It certainly has nothing to do with building up the body of Christ. We can only speculate that the true purpose is to raise money, or to build themselves up. It is easy to point at some one and think or say, what you are is sinful, and I am not that.

The apparent successor to Jerry Leach, Denise Shick of Help4Families, was brought to my attention recently I will be working on finding information about her. What I do know is that she has less qualifications than Jerry and that puts her in the negative numbers qualification. Reportedly she expresses her experience as having worked with Jerry (she lives in Pennsylvania, he lives in Kentucky) one wonders how do you do that?

Jerry appears to have no formal training in counseling, or at least none documented (he at one time claimed a PhD. Jerry appears to no longer be in business, Hopefully I had something to do with that, I know the damage he did.     

One insight that I gleaned from the PBS program "This Emotional Life" was a comment that "being righteous is a substitute for happiness". I am going to be thinking about that, probably a great deal.


I encountered a pamphlet by Gae Hall at the "Hope Gathering" and a few weeks back some on the Tri-Ess email list asked if any one had read He Can Never Be She, and indicated this book may well have cost her, a marriage. I accessed the books information on Amazon which convinced me to buy the book, from (I do not like profiting the author when it is so...). Reading the book and doing the review was difficult and there were a couple of times I had to get out of the house and go do errands because I was so mad. Becoming that mad has never happened before. I had written to Gae prior to reading the book and asked if she could agree that you can not remove a verse from its historical, cultural and linguistic context and have it still be true, and she agreed, and yet that is exactly what she has done  To presume God's will based on out of context and partial verses and even more importantly a huge number of what I call  non sequitur verses (Latin for "it does not follow") that have nothing to do with the stated heading. I have to believe she does not expect you to actually look up all the Bible references or understand the context. Gae's ignorance concerning the community has to come under the willful category and because she has a very negative damning web site she is in an echo chamber which will only reinforce her views. The damage has already been done to one marriage that I know of 


On Saturday May 22, 2010 I attended the Help4Families “Hope Gathering” with the stated purpose to “Gain a deeper understanding of Gender Identity Disorder in a Christ centered gathering”. It was a mixed bag and I will cover this in detail, but one of the understandings and a decision that relates to it are germane here and now. Those on the religious right (generalization) are deeply ignorant concerning what it is to be transgender. I have long said that ignorance is curable stupidity goes all the way to the bone. Going along with the ignorance is curable and with the permission of the Lambda-Mu Tri-Ess group I have invited each of the presenters at the conference to attend an LM meeting. I have also offered to pay their expenses and either host them at our house or pay for a motel and I will post their replies,  or lack of.

Ignorance is curable, willful ignorance is a sin when coupled with speaking about and working with a group of people and doing irreparable harm. Ignorance of a group of people when you are purporting to be competent in treating them in a therapeutic relationship is unethical as set forth in the codes of ethics of the APA, ACA, AACC and NASW.

So far this invitation has been extended to those main presenters at the conference.

Denise Schick, who declined, and I have told her that I now feel free to work to counter her.

James Phelan, who replied asking for more information, but has not yet answered.

David Maynard, who has not replied.

And to some not attending the conference but influential

Mark Yarhouse, who has not replied, I will follow up.

Warren Throckmorton, who I contacted a couple of years ago and seemed interested to whom I will re extend the offer.

As C.S. Lewis wrote in "Mere Christianity:"

"One of the marks of a certain type of bad man is that he cannot give up a thing without wanting every one else to give it up. That is not the Christian way. An individual Christian may see fit to give up all sorts of things for special reasons -- marriage, or meat, or beer, or the cinema; but the moment he starts saying the things are bad in themselves, or looking down his nose at other people who do use them, he has taken the wrong turning."



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